The Hair Cut





Although I’ve often said I’ll never cut my hair, one day I felt the sudden urge to. A few days later it was gone and I was free.

For so long my growing hair had been a place of refuge and a way to feel beautiful. Every morning and every night I brushed it. Mostly I wore it in plaits to keep from knotting and when I wore it out it was like a special dress. People would often compliment it, envy it and I loved the way it felt against my bare back.

But it only took a day of forgetting to brush it and it would begin to matte in clumps of ugly knots. I was spending so much of my time preserving what I saw as my beauty that I didn’t stop to realise I could be beautiful without it. Or, here’s a new idea, I didn’t have to be beautiful. At least not in the way society convinces me I should be.

The hairdresser took my long tail of hair and cut it from me in one sharp swoop. It was like my head was a fish bowl tight with fat goldfish swimming scale to scale, then the next moment my head was as empty as a cloud. I moved and felt a shock of short hair kiss my cheek. I didn’t expect to feel any different, but what I felt was a high so strange it was like being in another person’s body. I thought to myself, I may never feel this feeling again in my life. My hair had been so heavy I couldn’t wear it up without having a headache, and now suddenly the weight had lifted, I felt like I was floating up. I kept a small plaited section of my hair long, as a reminder, and I wrap it around my head to keep my hair out of my eyes.

I focus on being kind, open and generous now and suddenly people are glowing, because kindness is a beauty that can be shared by all. The wall is gone and though I can no longer hide, I feel less like I have to.







  1. Linda

    You women just have a Hair cutting fetish, sounds like you had orgasims as the sissors chunched away <3 So should do during pics and share the joy

  2. RJ

    I’m with Anthony. I respect your choice, but really, there is nothing more beautiful in this world than a woman with long hair.

  3. Anthony Thompson

    Are you crazy, girl? Why on Earth would you chop off that beautiful mane? Which was part of your beauty? A terrible mistake.

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  5. Rachel Dragonfly

    I remember how it felt. It was years ago when I first cut feet of hair off of my head and I realize now, after reading your words, that I have forgotten how that feels. The hair sweeping my lower back, the weight of it all pulling on my scalp, the braids wrapping around and around my head. It was freeing for me as well. Suddenly I didn’t have to hold all of that weight on my head and it felt really good.

    I’m glad I found your blog. Your photos are lovely.. both yours and your partner’s. Thank you for sharing.

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